Balance Sex & Romance 2
Girls’ night out = sex
Your girlfriend has friends-- women you may or may not care for. Really, though, what do you care? Let her spend some time with the girls. In fact, on a night that she has plans to go out without you, to commiserate with her estrogen squad, you are faced with the perfect opportunity for some spontaneous sex.
Women like it when you're spontaneous and they like feeling so attractive that you can't keep your hands off of them. When she gets back from the night on the town, take advantage of some detached, physical sex. She's been out listening to problems and aspirations of her friends, and will likely be in the mood to get down. Be ready.
Holidays = romance
Women love the holidays. The world is, supposedly, filled with good cheer and the malls are filled with good sales. The weather presents a perfect excuse to cuddle up on the couch with you and a glass of wine. The holidays present a perfect opportunity to reinvigorate your relationship and restore any fading romance.
Try going ice skating. If you're a good skater, all the better, but if you're a failure, the awkward flailing around will at least make her laugh (and laughter is an absurdly cheap aphrodisiac).
Post-argument = sex
An argument is a supernova of passion, hurt emotions and feelings of strength. Both you and your girlfriend are upset, hormones are raging and your blood pressure is up. Basically, you've set yourselves up for a fight with no physical relief. Obviously, you're not going to fight, which means it is time for some lovin'.
Sex, especially physical, dirty sex, is a spectacular relief to that fight-or-flight mentality. Make-up sex is legendary when it comes to relief and enjoyment. Obviously, you can't spark a fight just for the make-up sex, but you can absolutely take advantage of an organic fight when it arises.
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Balance Sex & Romance
For a man, sex and romance aren't inextricably linked. We don't usually see any sort of relationship between one and the other; sex is fun, spontaneous and is in its own means and ends. On the other side of the coin, there is the perspective of the woman (or for our purposes), who refers to it as making love. In other words, a woman requires sex and romance. Women love compromises, and relationships, unfortunately, require them. You'll need to find some time to balance sex and romance in order to ensure that you continue to get “some” on a regular basis. That said, here is our guide on how to balance sex and romance with your woman.
Date night = romance
When you're in a committed, long-term relationship, some of the magic inevitably starts to wane. When this happens, the rest of your life starts finding it's way back to the top of your list of priorities. Projects at work you've been neglecting begin to take on new importance, much to her chagrin. If you're smart, you've already incorporated “date night” into your relationship; a night where work, your friends and the entirety of the outside world take a back seat to the wonderfulness that is your girlfriend or wife.
Date night is when you focus on romance. Doors are opened, roses are purchased and pedestals are populated with that woman who is far too good for you. On these nights, show her the tenderness that she remembers from that first week you started seeing each other. Contrary to popular belief, women aren't soul-crushing packages of complete irrationality, but they do require a periodic relationship recharge.
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7 Signs Your Woman Is Satisfied 3
6- She can't stop talking about it
If, after you're done getting your bang on, she can't stop talking about the positions you had her in, the sensations she felt, or better yet, she simply keeps mumbling the same word over and over again (e.g. "amazing pant, pant , amazing pant , that was pant , amazing, amazing, you're pant , amazing..."), chances are she is stupefied by your penile goodness.
7- She's smiling like a freak
Come on, you've been there so you know exactly what I'm referring to. There will be days when your woman simply won't be able to wipe that smirk off her face and it will be all thanks to you. Pat yourself lightly on the back and kiss her for no reason.
Now not only will she be dying for more, but chances are she'll tell all her friends what a stallion you are. And you what that means; should things not work out between you and her, you have an entire stable to choose from.
making it good
Of course, while you're having sex, she can't easily bite, scratch, get mildly violent, squirt, or even yell out in complete agony. And if those signs aren't enough for you to get the hint that she likes what you're doing, then my advice surely won't help.
The bottom line is this: your woman should have the common courtesy of informing you that she is wholly satisfied with the sexual work you do. We men are simple; there's proof in our orgasms. Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for women.
So, if these subtle hints don't cut it, then hopefully your woman will have the decency to inform you that you are the master of her domain.
Source: askmen.com
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3- She falls asleep
A trait usually attributed to men, there are women out there who are so incredibly drained via their orgasms that they simply need to take a nap and recuperate from the damage you've done.
If she turns over and begins to snooze, don't get insulted -- that, dude, would make you a woman. No, just wrap your arms around her and do as.
4- She needs to snuggle intimately
While it does not guarantee that she orgasmed per se, her need to hold you tight and feel your arms around her may be a sign that she just finished enjoying a "moving" experience. What that means, I'm not sure, but I think that if she wants to hug you tight after you finish doing your thing, then she likes you nevertheless.
5- She can't walk
She wants to get up to fix you that after-sex snack you love so much, but she simply can't walk because her legs are quivering. Shaky legs are a sure-fire sign that you have done your duty as a man, man.
If she needs a few minutes before she can go to the bathroom to clean up and make you that big ass sandwich, then you can rest assured that you gave it to her good.
Source: askmen.com
7 Signs Your Woman Is Satisfied
If making her orgasm wasn't hard enough, it seems that guys are equally confused about whether or not their women are thoroughly satisfied after a round of salami tag.
now you'll know
Well, I'm here to help you out with the "what does it mean when..." issues. Don't worry, I'm sure you're doing just fine on your own, but a lot of guys do need to know for certain that their women are pleased. I guess their women saying, "Honey, I'm so satisfied" isn't good enough. And asking, "Didjacum?" all the time is getting redundant.
That said, here are some not-so-obvious signs that your woman is about ready to call in a stand-in because she's so happy with the sex you give her.
1- Her nipples harden
While it's possible that she's cold or nervous -- after all, I'm sure you've seen women walking around in public with nipplitis at some point -- hardened nipples, coupled with a few other signs such as panting, squirting and yelling the words, "Yes! Yes! I'm coming!" may indicate that your woman is, indeed, satisfied.
2- She gets emotional
My friends looked at me like I was mildly retarded when I told them that my girlfriend sometimes cries after we make love. But according to her, her orgasm sometimes brings on such a wave of emotion that she ends up crying. Now that's pat on the back worthy.
If your woman collapses after reaching orgasm or begins crying like a girl (which would make sense), don't worry; it's because she's feeling good and oh-so satisfied.
Source: askmen.com
Natural Aphrodisiacs 4
sexual scents
Vanilla -- Because of its sweet, welcoming odor, it has a euphoric effect and can be used at will. If consumed, vanilla combats sexual debilitation and improves upon the central nervous system. Its odor implicitly acts upon sexual stimulation in both men and women. So add a few drops of vanilla essence to your bath and set the sensual mood for what's to come (pun fully intended).
Patchouli -- This scent is believed to awaken and provoke sexual energy. If you'd like to try its aphrodisiacal powers, purchase patchouli in the form of incense. And while you're at it, play some erotic music to add to the ambience.
Musk -- Believe it or not, many experts believe that musk closely resembles the smell of testosterone (human pheromones), the male sex hormone. Now if you smell it and like it, that doesn't mean you want to start playing for the other team. What you should be concerned with is her nose and what she likes. So bust out the musk and fill the room with man smell.
more to come
Yes, there are a multitude of other natural aphrodisiacs, but as I mentioned before, the most sexual aphrodisiac is the one between your ears. If you have the ability to sex up her mind with your own, you'll have her begging for you to probe her in no time flat. Women love sensual, as well as intellectual stimulation, so separate the boys from the men and let her know that you are da man!
All that having been said, maybe you should break out the caviar and vodka and feed her slowly. Then perhaps you should add some ginseng to your diet for prosperity. And finally, light up some patchouli incense and get the night off to a banging start.
And remember; always protect your penile pal. Until next time, break out the food, spices and scents and discover the beauty of giving your woman all kinds of intense sexual desires with aphrodisiacs.
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Ginseng -- The word "ginseng" means "man root." So it's likely that ginseng gained its popularity as a sexually enhancing herb via its similarity to the male, umm, organ. While it is true that the root has a mild stimulating effect, like caffeine, there is no solid evidence that ginseng has an effect on human sexuality. But what the heck, increase your energy and your sex life will follow suit.
Yohimbine -- Taken from the bark of an African tree, yohimbine is believed to work by stimulating the nerve centers in the spine that control erection. Although even the FDA found their studies on animals to be positive, there is still no scientific proof that it works on human beings. But some gentlemen swear by yohimbine and like I always say; if it's good for the goose, then slip on a condom and give it to the gander.
Spanish Fly -- We have all heard about this little fly that can bring us to immeasurable sexual heights, but do you really know what Spanish fly is? It's a bright green blister beetle from Southern Europe. The fly, or cantharides, is made from dried beetle remains and can be one of the most dangerous aphrodisiacs on the market. The sexual excitement initializes from the irritation to the urinary and genital tracts and results in a rush of blood to the sex organs. My suggestion -- keep away from The Fly.
Source: askmen.com
Natural Aphrodisiacs 2
fiery foods for foreplay
Spices - Chili, curry and all those sweat inducing foods are believed to have aphrodisiacal effects because they produce results much like sex would. Think about it; spicy foods increase your heart rate and cause us to perspire. So cook up some curry chicken and then give her a "spicy meatball" of your own.
Oysters -- Wow, I know you're as surprised to see this one on the list as I am (yeah right). We all know that oysters have been esteemed as sex aids for ages. Why? Well, it's possible that it's because of diets that were nutritionally deficient in zinc in the days of horse carriages and lasting marriages. People would eat oysters and since their overall health would improve, it would lead to an increased sex drive. So start shucking and don't stop till you feel it move.
Wasabi (Horseradish) - While some people believe that Sushi has aphrodisiacal effects all on its own, my Japanese friends let me in on a little secret. Apparently, that green stuff that comes with it ( Wasabi or horseradish) is what'll really get your twig and berries ripe and ready. So the next time you go out for sushi, ask for some extra Wasabi; it's a kick and will make your eyes tear, but you can make your gal's eyes tear when you take her home and show her Wasaaaaaaabi.
Caviar - That's right, fish eggs contain a large amount of beneficial vitamins. They are rich in phosphorus and are very nourishing to nerve cells. Their apparent aphrodisiac powers are reinforced by vodka. So get yourself into Absolut shape for the night.
Source: askmen.com
Natural Aphrodisiacs
Well everyone has heard of or even tried some sort of outside element that they believed may improve their sex life. No, I'm not referring to Viagra or the family dog; I'm talking about aphrodisiacs.
What is an aphrodisiac? Well, it can be a drug, scent, food, drink, or device that some claim (usually those who market them) may kindle or increase sexual desire. Basically, aphrodisiacs are products that enhance sexual performance.
But for your wallet's sake, today's sex tip includes natural aphrodisiacs; in other words, stuff that you would either have around the house anyway, or natural ingredients which don't require you to skip around the room on one foot while chanting ancient Chinese proverbs.
it's all in your head
Now before I delve into all the yummy stuff that may cause your penis to remain erect for hours on end, keep in mind that the FDA (Food & Drug Administration) declares that there's no scientific evidence whatsoever that proves that aphrodisiacs can treat sexual drawbacks. I say, bull shite; the mind is a very powerful thing and if you, like me, believe it to be so, then it will be.
If it was only based on folklore, then how come so many people believe it to be so? Because our brains are the greatest sex organs we have and food, scents and drinks are as pleasant to the senses as they are to the brain.
Mutual Masturbation 4
Get back to her clitoris and place it between your index and middle fingers. Move your fingers up and down in a rhythmic motion, but always check for her reaction because different women like different things.
Begin using both of your fingers to rub her clitoris with more gusto, but don't be too aggressive as the clit has a tendency to become sensitive quite easily.
Finally, after all this torture, slide your finger inside of her and move in and out, all the while paying close attention to whether she wants you to go faster, slower, harder... you know. Try to find her G-spot, but don't be mechanical about it.
being bold
To add variety to your finger techniques, while you're penetrating her, use your thumb to lightly stimulate her clitoris. Some women love the sensation of having both zones stimulated.
As well, for the women who like to have their behinds touched, you can use your pinky finger to rub her anus (or penetrate it if you know she likes that) while you're finger(s) is inside her vagina doing its thing.
what's my point?
Mutual masturbation can be a huge turn-on and a highly sensual experience that can help couples understand what the other person likes, and learn new things about themselves as well.
Until next time, keep the feelings mutual.
Source: askmen.com
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As well, you can slip on an erotic movie and watch it while the both of you stroke each other into heaven. If you have all night to engage in this activity, then take the time to tease each other to the brinks of bliss.
If staring at a television doesn't exactly whet your appetite, then light a candle and look into each other's eyes while you talk about your sexual fantasies, or the first time you made love or will make love. You know, it's those kinds of conversations that can make the mind drive the body crazy.
playing with her fire
Before you head down, place your middle finger in her mouth and make her suck it as though she were performing on your member. Use that same finger to start gently rubbing her clitoris.
Glide over her clitoris in a slow, soft, circular motion. Then slide your finger past her vaginal opening until you reach her perineum (the area between her anus and her vagina) and begin rubbing that.
Upon going back up, let your fingers venture among her lips. If you're with a woman you're certain is free of any and all STDs, bring your wet fingers up to your mouth and suck them. This will work wonders on her mind.
Source: askmen.com
Mutual Masturbation 2
so this is foreplay
Because a lot of women find it easier to achieve clitoral orgasms rather than vaginal or G-spot ones, masturbating her can help you achieve that goal. By watching her reaction when you rub different parts of her body, you'll slowly begin to figure out what turns her on.
As well, although she may initially feel somewhat antsy about having you look at her, you can comfort her by telling her how much she turns you on and there's nothing you'd like more than to watch her orgasm for you.
Rub her entire body; move between her thighs, glide over her hips, feel her waist, cup her breasts; travel everywhere. After all, you have all night to get each other off.
Here's what you're going to do to her...
making her feel good
The thing about mutual masturbation is that -- assuming you're not going to penetrate each other -- you can make the experience as greasy and oily as you want it to be. But if you do plan on going down or getting in, oily lubrication is not recommended as it can rupture a condom, cause infections in women and doesn't taste very good.
You can use lubrication to get her started, and even drench your penis with it so she can have her fun (but let's be realistic here, who's really having the fun?).
Source: askmen.com
Mutual Masturbation
A lot of men spend a great deal of their lives masturbating; it's quite normal after all. But what can make things so much more interesting is bringing a woman who can do the job for you into the scenario.
If that's not the greatest part, you get to explore her body and use your fingers to help her reach the same height of enjoyment that you plan to. All partners can engage in this fun -- virgins, novices and sexperts .
good to the last drop
This experience can help partners get to know each other better and in a more intimate way. How is it more intimate? Well, being able to look into each other's eyes whilst masturbating one another can be highly erotic and make both of you feel more comfortable with one another.
A lot of readers write in to reveal that they're shy when it comes to lovemaking, or that they want to make their lover understand what they really want. Well, this is the perfect opportunity. You know what feels good for you and she can only guess since she's not psychic. Now you can fill her in.
Obviously, you don't have to head straight for her vagina and get to work, and continuously ask, "Does this feel good? What about this?" The point is to pick up on her reactions. Keep your eyes and ears open and when you think she's being pleasured, don't speed up like you're in a marathon; keep your rhythmic pace going.
Source: askmen.com
Use Your Tongue To Turn Her On 4
Bring your tongue to a hard point and use only the tip to lick the clitoris gently. Slowly inch your way down, licking her lips on either side. Then stop licking her altogether and use your tongue to lick her inner thighs again for just a moment.
When you work your way back to her vagina, expand your tongue and lick her from the bottom of her vagina straight up to her clitoris. With the back of your tongue, go back down and when you reach the opening, harden your tongue and begin making love to her (or sexing her, whichever you prefer) with it.
As well, for the avid adventurous types, you can even work your way down to her backside and use your pointed tongue to excite her. Or, if that makes you feel somewhat squirmy, you can keep on licking her vagina until she lifts herself up and forces you to lie down and endure the same kind of explosive sexual torture.
rrrroll the tongue
Keep in mind that good lovers aren't just born, actually, they're avid readers of my column. And although this article is very tongue specific, the bottom line lies with your woman and what she wants you to do.
What you can do is test out these experiments and you'll be able to determine by her reaction (moaning, groaning, "oh yes," "faster," or a smack upside the head) whether or not she likes what you're doing.
Until next time, put the "safety" on your "gun" so that you don't accidentally shoot her with your "bullets" and make a bigger mess than necessary. Oh, and give her the tongue lashing of a lifetime (but be safe in that area too).
Source: askmen.com
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Nevertheless, why don't you give her back a soft, wet massage with your fiercest muscle? Let her lay on her stomach and use your tongue to slowly inch your way down her spine.
Now remember to keep going slowly, otherwise your salivary glands won't be able to keep up with your speed. Anyway, moving slowly is also a wonderful way to tease her until she starts salivating for you like a St. Bernard.
Once you get to the bottom of her back, work your way up in an uncoordinated intense fashion, going from one side to the other, and using your tongue and lips to suck up her skin. And if you're the bold type, spread her legs and begin licking the inside of her thighs. Don't move onto to every man's favorite flower just yet. Remember to keep taking it slow.
Don't restrict yourself to this body part or that one; move all over using your tongue to taste, test and tantalize her body. There are no holds barred; lick everywhere without apprehension (assuming she has been courteous enough to shower) and get your friends "teeth" and "lips" to join in the hours of fun.
speaking in tongue
Now it's time to venture down south, where most women would love to keep us hard at work for hours; the pleasure dome. After teasing her body for an ample amount of time, it's likely that when you finally reach her bottom lips, she'll be soaked enough to provide your mouth with plenty of lubrication.
Bring your tongue to a hard point and use only the tip to lick the clitoris gently. Slowly inch your way down, licking her lips on either side. Then stop licking her altogether and use your tongue to lick her inner thighs again for just a moment.
Source: askmen.com
Use Your Tongue To Turn Her On 2
nip it with the bud
Remember those tongue techniques I made you practice in the mirror not too long ago? Well, they're going to come in quite handy on your female body exploration adventure. You can start by licking in between her breasts. Yeah that's right, you don't have to plunge onto the nipples the second her bra comes off.
Lick between her chest with your hardened tongue and slowly let your tongue relax, and lightly lick her breasts until you reach her nipples, at which point you will begin your sensual torture on her.
Use your saliva - filled tongue to go over her nipple so lightly that she can feel your warm (and minty ) breath. Then make it pointy and be a little more aggressive with it. And using your fingers to rub the other nipple so it won't become intensely jealous is also a good idea.
Even small things like holding her breasts aggressively with your hands yet licking them so softly with your tongue will drive her crazy, so don't be afraid to try different things; that's the only way you'll find out what she wants.
And moving down her body...
it's a body party
Although having a tongue as long as Gene Simmons' may come in handy for many of us, surely women don't judge us by the length of our tongues, do they ?
Source: askmen.com
Use Your Tongue To Turn Her On
Which muscle is the strongest one in your body and can make women reach immeasurable heights of sexual ecstasy? No, your penis is not a muscle and again, it's not the strongest member of your physical make-up either.
Actually it's the tongue and today you're going to find out about all the wicked things you can do with it that will ultimately make your woman cry out in sexual agony. But before you begin practicing on her body, start out by getting to know your tongue in the mirror. And no, that's not your cue to begin French kissing your image.
Stick out your tongue and try to focus all your attention on the tip. Try to make it come to a point. This will come in handy when you want to use force with it. Now, try to expand your tongue's width to the extreme -- this will also come in quite handy while you're doing your Christopher Columbus thing throughout her body.
hardly soft kisses
You can use your tongue to lick her lips softly, gently part them and find your way to her tongue. Now it goes without saying that at some point, you'll incorporate your lips and teeth into the job, but the point of using your tongue is for sensual reasons.
As well as her mouth, you can use your tongue to lick her earlobes -- please keep in mind that at no point should you salivate in her ear, nor should you start breathing like a starved Doberman.
Oh, and her neck; use your pointed tongue to lick an area of it, then nibble with your teeth, and finally suck gently with your lips in order to fully arouse the chill-up-spine factor. If you'd like, lift up her hair (assuming it's long) and do this to the back of her neck as well. I bet she'll turn around and attack you in no time -- in a good way, of course.
Source: askmen.com
Convince Her To Have A Threesome 3
Now, if you're lucky enough to have the opportunity to set something like this up, she obviously has to be the decision-maker on who the other woman will be.
Oh, and a word of advice for the oblivious at heart: Don't, we repeat don't push for someone considerably more attractive than your woman. She will only feel insecure and renege on the whole idea and once again, you'll be left with the "hairy palms" ordeal.
three may be a crowd
The following are the potential repercussions that may come with engaging in a threesome:
You're left out: It's possible that the two women may be getting off on each other so intensely that they'll forget you're even in the room. Believe us, it happens more often than you think.
You lose respect for her: After the experience, it's possible that she may move from being the "girl I'm going to marry" to the "party girl." There are chauvinists amongst us and when we see a girl doing questionable things sexually, we habitually judge and condemn them for it. Blame it on years of evolution, or a lack thereof.
She plays for the other team - permanently: Some women are into the whole aspect of being with another woman, but sometimes the woman may decide that she actually prefers the bush rather than the snake.
She becomes extremely jealous: Depending on how things go, your woman can become very jealous because you either paid too much attention to the other woman or the other woman paid too much attention to you.
You become extremely jealous: Because you may get left out of the entire tryst altogether, you may become jealous due to the fact that you were neglected.
Your relationship disintegrates: It's possible that you or she will realize that perhaps there's someone out there who is better suited to your needs - at least sexually speaking.
Well, there you have it: a nice and easy way of attaining what you want through cunning means. Remember that there may be some serious repercussions following the ordeal so make certain that this is what you really want.
Source: askmen.com
Convince Her To Have A Threesome 2
Double your pleasure
For the rest of you who are pretty sure that your women will be keen on the idea of bringing another sexy vixen into the bedroom, here's the lowdown on how to bring up the idea.
Before anything, remember that you shouldn't act overenthusiastic, otherwise your girl might feel like this is your way of saying, "I want to cheat on you -- with your permission, of course." No matter how you bring it up, make sure that your girl knows that she is what matters most.
Gradually begin discussing sex and sexual fantasies. Put your fantasies out on display so that she can get an idea of what you like. When you begin discussing the date for three, don't say something like: "I've always wanted to bang two chicks at the same time!" You should know what to say and the repercussions of being part of a threesome.
load the lesbian lingo
Instead say something like: "I would love to see you kissing another woman." This will flatter her and she won't feel threatened or as though you're dying to get into another woman's pants. This way, you get the bonus of joining in at some point once they're into it. If she's open to the whole "lesbian experience", then she'll concentrate more on the excitement of being with another woman, rather than "my man wants to have sex with another woman."
Your objective here is to make her understand that you do not want another woman (even though that's probably the furthest thing from the truth), you simply want the experience of two women.
Source: askmen.com
Convince Her To Have A Threesome
Today's tip is for those couples that are willing to try new things and are very secure within their relationships. A threesome, if done correctly, can provide couples with a creative new way to explore their inner carnal desires.
So, you'd like to coax your woman into getting naughty and nasty with a third party? It could be an extremely difficult goal to attain. However, if your woman is very open-minded and sexually explicit, initiating a threesome can be a very simple task.
Threesomes aren't for everyone
First off, if your significant other isn't a very sexually open-minded individual, then it's quite unlikely that she'll be bringing another woman home any time soon. For instance, if she doesn't accept you ejaculating in her face, swallowing, or worse yet, giving fellatio altogether, then we suggest that you don't even bother suggesting the idea of a threesome.
If you do broach the topic and she's less than enthusiastic about the idea, then it's likely that you'll end up having your own little threesome for some time to come -- you and both of your hands. After all, if she refuses to let in you in anally, why in the world would she accept another woman in the boudoir?
Sorry guys, but some women will simply refuse to get involved in a situation that they believe is a potential threat to their relationship. If you know your girl well, then you can probably predict whether or not she'd be delighted with the idea of licking another woman's privates, or better yet, watching another woman lick yours.
Source: askmen.com
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